As I have been reading through articles the last week, I have not been able to stop thinking about one of them. It was an article relating the story of a parent who got on the bus and started to yell at the child who had been bullying his daughter for quite some time. I am sure that the child was not the only one on that bus who was shocked!
I will start by saying I think it is a horrible idea to charge onto a bus and berate a child in front of other children. However, part of me understands why that parent did what he did. After many ill-fated attempts to have the school intervene and be an advocate for my child and getting no results, I can understand why a parent would resort to this tactic. I was ready to do anything to get the bullying to stop. The helplessness and pain is so strong that I was not always thinking the clearest; I just wanted my child to be safe and not have anxiety from the moment he left the house to the moment he got home.
This story makes me sad so for so many reasons. The first reason being it shows our inability as a culture to deal with bullying. The parent of the bully and the school are either not aware of what the child is doing, or are having trouble dealing with it. The parent who walked onto the bus also did not handle things well. However, it is unclear whether or not the parent did this as a last resort, or did this as a first line of defense for the child. Either way, I don’t feel it is a good example of what to do to help a child
It takes so much more than just the school or just the family to help deal with a bully. As with every other aspect of our children’s lives, bullying is another area where a child must be held accountable for appropriate behavior both at school and at home. The child receiving a consistent message is what will eventually change that child.